Oh, and about that: when did you get to grow up or leap into adulthood. I believe for most it's a gradual thing. You take one big leap and then maybe crawl back a little etc.
That's what being a teenager and going through puberty is for, isn't it? (That may be one of the reasons those Munchausen by proxy moms give their kids puberty blockers, so they don't get to grow up and take that leap into adulthood.)
Happy Birthday to Nina. If nothing else helps think about what my doctor told me when I was complaining: Just imagine! In the middle ages you'd have had 10 kids and at 44 you'd be ancient, or dead.
I’ve listened to a lot of trans people and their families. Read their posts and pieces, watched their videos. My only child was part of the community for awhile, so I was keyed in.
And my profession for the last 20 years has required observing and reporting what I’m seeing, in an objective manner that anyone unfamiliar with the situation could understand.
I gotta be straight with you - I haven’t seen a lot of boys in the community being victimized and lied to.
What I’ve seen, is a lot of boys victimizing others, bullying and gaslighting others, and being ENABLED in doing so. Narcissistic boys, boys with horribly bad boundaries and lack of concern for others.
Boys constantly being centered in the conversation.
So I’m not real interested in talking about the boys at this point, except to talk about the need for erecting better boundaries around them and encouraging their families to do so, to protect the people around them being harmed.
There are certainly exceptions to that phenomenon. But they are only exceptions to the overall rule. Not so important.
i started pursuing mental health care around age 19, started zoloft around age 21. My parents couldn’t help me at all with this because they ignore their own mental health issues. So that probably was a big moment for me in growing up.
I would be down to trek to Indianapolis, depending on timing. It’s not *that* far from me, by the standards of the American Midwest.
I was probably around 12 when I stopped thinking of my parents as people I could go to for advice and guidance, and around 25 or 26 when I really started to think of myself as “an adult.”
Okay, I watched this earlier when you posted it, and now I just keep imagining translated subtitles of cancer puppy’s whines, “Please kill me. I want to die.”
Oh, and about that: when did you get to grow up or leap into adulthood. I believe for most it's a gradual thing. You take one big leap and then maybe crawl back a little etc.
That's what being a teenager and going through puberty is for, isn't it? (That may be one of the reasons those Munchausen by proxy moms give their kids puberty blockers, so they don't get to grow up and take that leap into adulthood.)
I would love to hear an episode of Heterodorx featuring Exulansic as a guest!
Happy Birthday to Nina. If nothing else helps think about what my doctor told me when I was complaining: Just imagine! In the middle ages you'd have had 10 kids and at 44 you'd be ancient, or dead.
Love you guys
I’ve listened to a lot of trans people and their families. Read their posts and pieces, watched their videos. My only child was part of the community for awhile, so I was keyed in.
And my profession for the last 20 years has required observing and reporting what I’m seeing, in an objective manner that anyone unfamiliar with the situation could understand.
I gotta be straight with you - I haven’t seen a lot of boys in the community being victimized and lied to.
What I’ve seen, is a lot of boys victimizing others, bullying and gaslighting others, and being ENABLED in doing so. Narcissistic boys, boys with horribly bad boundaries and lack of concern for others.
Boys constantly being centered in the conversation.
So I’m not real interested in talking about the boys at this point, except to talk about the need for erecting better boundaries around them and encouraging their families to do so, to protect the people around them being harmed.
There are certainly exceptions to that phenomenon. But they are only exceptions to the overall rule. Not so important.
I’m in my fifties, and sometimes don’t feel like I properly “adulted.”
Thanks to you both for keeping me company while I got some chores done. :)
i started pursuing mental health care around age 19, started zoloft around age 21. My parents couldn’t help me at all with this because they ignore their own mental health issues. So that probably was a big moment for me in growing up.
Amazing speech Cori!
I would be down to trek to Indianapolis, depending on timing. It’s not *that* far from me, by the standards of the American Midwest.
I was probably around 12 when I stopped thinking of my parents as people I could go to for advice and guidance, and around 25 or 26 when I really started to think of myself as “an adult.”
Nina is like cancer puppy from “the magicians”:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_Z_fhLFYVTE&pp=ygUWY2FuY2VyIHB1cHB5IG1hZ2ljaWFucw%3D%3D
Okay, I watched this earlier when you posted it, and now I just keep imagining translated subtitles of cancer puppy’s whines, “Please kill me. I want to die.”
Honestly, that would make perfect sense